Newbie

Hi All
Thought I'd join this site as been out the 'truth' for nearly 3 yrs and sometimes, even now, find it a bit hard.
I dont miss it, but the world is so different to the bubble of the organisation we used to be part of.
Just wondering if any of u are local to (br3, kent) or can give me some tips pls on how to shut the past out for good?
Thanks
K
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Hi Krissy, I don't think that the past can ever be fully forgotten but places like here do help to think things through and adjust. I least thats what I think. Welcome!

Pete

Welcome Krissy, Pete is right. You can never forget and may always have some after effects. So the thing to do is fill your life with good positive things and share your feelings with those who understand and know where your coming from. I am glad you found this site. We have all been helped by being here. Great to have you,Rose

Welcom Krissy!

I'm hoping to put all this behind me at some point too. It does seem like it'll take some time though. Maybe never totally.

Welcome to the club, Krissy!

I resigned in 1994, but I'm still reeling from the effects of the damage wrought by the WT. You see, I was a born-in JW. We have an old saying here in PI: "If you don't look back to where you came from, you can't get to where you're going."

Here is something to welcome you:

Hello and Welcome Krissy.


I think getting some perspective and talking things through definitely helps to propel you in the direction you desire.

Lisa

Hi guys,

Thank you all so much for your kind words. I feel welcome already.

I grew up in a divided house hold and fell away for a few months when i was 15. I then went to a witness wedding and met some and I basically went bk for him. We got married when i was 18 and since being married I felt so trapped and started to question things more fully. I then left my husband and everyone was convinced i'd left him for another man and had an affair. Which just wasn't true. I left him cos he emtionally blackmailed me and physically hurt me.That was over 2 years ago now.
I have been in a bad relationship since then. We split up last year and he knew all about my past as a JW. He contacted my ex and had a meeting with the elders and told them we were living together and took proof so my ex could have a scriptual divorce. They have not yet disfellowshipped me, but i'm not in the area. I just felt so betrayed. When I fell away everyone just left me and weren;t there for me. Then that happened.

On a brighter note, I have now finally found someone who treats me like a princess.

He understands things but not as much as an ex witness would. As you say...unless you've been in it, you cant truly understand what the effects are.

Anyway, that's a bit of my back ground...probably similar to many of you. I look forward to getting to know you all. :-)

xx

Dang. Nobody treats me like a princess. That's probably for the best.

I know all to well how rumors can hurt. Right after I left they said I was screwing everybody in town and on drugs. I only screwed 2 guys at that time and moved in with one. Thats what got me dfd. His sister turned me in cuz she dident like me anymore. And white wine was my drug. Trust me I was no angel but I wasent as bad as they said at that time. I don`t care what people say about me as long as its the truth. Rose

Hey Newbie, I'm Beverly and newly out of the organization. My journey is one that has stopped and started for years. every couple of years I get this nagging unhappiness, this feeling that I am part of something that is hurtful and mean-spirited. don't get me wrong, the JWs helped me when I was at my lowest. But the price you pay is never-ending. The guilt, self-loathing and feeling like you never measure up is too much. So much of what others say on the site is so true! We are like the pharisees: we are the biggest know-it-all, haughty, judgmental, mean-spirited people I know. We can't see the forest for the trees, so busy picking the speck out of someone else's eye and missing the rafter in our own. I feel relieved that I am done and have walked away. I had a panic attack at work yesterday and was praying so hard for Jehovah to help me conquer my fear and move forward. I felt like I was taking a leap off a cliff. Then I found this site and literally started crying at my desk. You guys have saved my life, and I can't thank you enough. Finally, with prayer I feel strong enough to move on. My daughter is only 13, but she HATES going to the hall. She begged me not to make her go back and says she loves Jehovah and Jesus but she hates feeling like she is in a straight jacket. I just can't do it anymore and I am so relieved to find the support I need to stick with my decision.