My Malaysian Wife

Hi, Gilbert.

Nice of you to ask. She is unfortunately still in Malaysia. We both are not happy about it in the least. Especially being flat broke we can?t even phone each other regularly. Just SMS mostly, unless an emergency. But she was so wanting for us to be together the other day she just had to phone for a few minutes.

She is hoping to get a job at the end of July and hopes to save some money to come over here for a couple of weeks to be with me in Perth when I shift there. Then unfortunately it is back to Malaysia for her. The work will be under a year contract, so she wont be able to break it, she doesn?t even know is she will be able to take two weeks of to visit me. We hope for her to be permanently in Australia August 2009!!! Sadly, if the fuel prices keep going up over the next 18 months?.gag?I hate to think. I am pushed with the prospect of moving to Perth in ten weeks time with no family or friends to help and no money.

Unfortunately, nearly three years ago, my grandmother died leaving me some money. Enough to enable me to get a spouse visa ($2000 up front and not guarantee they give it to you and no money back if they turn it down!!). But my aunt has frozen the will and there is not a thing I can do about it. It could have all been so different. My aunts actions have literally cost me everything I have. Malaysian government will not allow its citizens to work while out of the country. Had a job all lined up for her in Darwin and then we found this out!!!

We need a miracle.

Love and peace,
Sam

Hi, Sam!

I emphatize with you, brod. Didn't your wife get an Australian citizenship yet? I think your country's immigration authorities can help you with your problem in getting your wife from Malaysia. What's your wife's religion?

You're asking for a miracle? Here it is, Sam:

miracle

Sending good thoughts and positive energy that things work out for the best..


Gilbert excellent piece.

Lisa

For you, Sam, and your 'Papagena':


Papagena/Papageno

Believe me, Gilbert, the Australian government would be very disinterested in helping me and Vivienne, my wife. Australia is a very hard place to migrate to with some of the strictest guidelines. If you are old you may not stay here. If you are poor you may not stay here. If you are disabled you may not stay here. If you don?t pass the health check you may not stay here just in case you cost the tax payer any money for a hospital stay. Get fully ensured if you come here or you will be sent back on the first plane from where you came.

If you can land a job here offering $40,000 gross annually you are very welcome on a workers visa (as long as you have experience in that particular job) as your worth as a person is measured by how much tax you will contribute to the tax coffers.

If you manage to stay on a visa you are watched for two years even as someone?s spouse. If authorities think you pass and are not falsely married then the spouse will be given the ok to stay.

To my horror, I have also come to the realization that Asians (Vivienne is Malaysian born Chinese) are considered suspicious and guilty without trial that they are more than likely green card sniffers and/or gold diggers. So this may also make it even more difficult for us. On top of that Vivienne?s status as a transsexual may also be highly disadvantageous. There are many transwomen wishing to leave Malaysia as their lives are constantly under threat. If Vivienne were given any special treatment or consideration the Australian government is fully aware that transwomen might try to come to Australia under a false marriage if they can team up with someone here who is a transman like myself. Vivienne and I have no way of proving our genuine status as a married couple. Unfortunately, many people years ago (non transsexuals) came to Australia under false marriages and then two years later once they were granted citizenship left their spouses. So the Australian government learnt this lesson and the few genuine couples are no stuffed. These false marriages also produced children that are now being supported by the welfare system. See, years ago if someone had a child while in Australia they were not removed as the child was considered an Australian citizen so the mother could then stay also. The government soon put an end to that trick. One of my friends has a friend who has been fighting for two years to get his Thailand wife and Australian born child back to Australia. Vivienne and I can?t have children. But still, all the other stuff might just go against us.

And again. Without $2000 upfront just to apply for a visa without a guarantee of getting one we can?t even take the first step.

She is Christian by the way.

Love and peace,
Sam

hi sam. i can relate to some of your problems as i am looking to move to england. i'm not a trans-sexual, but wonder what problems i will encounter with the whole immigration process. just visiting the U.K. i got grilled by a mean-ass bitch customs lady who must have been on her period. she scared the crap out of me and gave me second thoughts of immigrating. however the next time around i'll be married with a spouse visa so hopefully they'll let me breeze right through customs.

but yeah. these things are tough. sending good thoughts your way!!

sarah

Vivienne, very nice name! She must be very beautiful that you fell in love with her! Do you have a picture of her? Maybe, you can share it with us. And maybe, all you need is her picture to show the authorities how a good asset she can be to your country. I know of a transsexual here in PI who really looks like the real thing. She is my brother's brother-in-law. Or is that sister-in-law?

I know for a fact that gays are very hardworking, so they don't run out of money. Besides Chinese outside China are relatively well-off. Vivienne must be, 'coz tanssexual operation costs much anywhere. Filipino-Chinese are the lords here in PI. A Malaysian-Chinese friend of mine told me that ethnic Chinese control the businesses in that country.

Well, only time can tell if you are really meant for each other. If Vivienne really loves you that much, she can make a way to go again in Australia. Besides I don't believe the rule that Malaysians can't work while abroad applies to Vivienne. She is Chinese and has clout in her country. And as you said, she is Christian, not Muslim.

Love,

Gilbert

Good vibes

hi sam. i can relate to some of your problems as i am looking to move to england. i'm not a trans-sexual, but wonder what problems i will encounter with the whole immigration process. just visiting the U.K. i got grilled by a mean-ass bitch customs lady who must have been on her period. she scared the crap out of me and gave me second thoughts of immigrating. however the next time around i'll be married with a spouse visa so hopefully they'll let me breeze right through customs.

but yeah. these things are tough. sending good thoughts your way!!

sarah

SARAH!!!!!!!!! YOUR MOVING TO ENGLAND AND GETTING MARRIED???????/ YOU DIDENT TELL US BEFORE NOW. CONGRATS TO YOU AND LET ME GUESS.................CHRIS? BEST WISHES TO BOTH OF YOU ROSE

hi sam. i can relate to some of your problems as i am looking to move to england. i'm not a trans-sexual, but wonder what problems i will encounter with the whole immigration process. just visiting the U.K. i got grilled by a mean-ass bitch customs lady who must have been on her period. she scared the crap out of me and gave me second thoughts of immigrating. however the next time around i'll be married with a spouse visa so hopefully they'll let me breeze right through customs.

but yeah. these things are tough. sending good thoughts your way!!

sarah

SARAH!!!!!!!!! YOUR MOVING TO ENGLAND AND GETTING MARRIED???????/ YOU DIDENT TELL US BEFORE NOW. CONGRATS TO YOU AND LET ME GUESS.................CHRIS? BEST WISHES TO BOTH OF YOU ROSE

thank you rose!! yes you are correct. chris and i are getting hitched. we are planning for a late october wedding, and we are looking at saying our vows in italy. we both were counting on chris moving here to the states, but the immigration process is very long for the U.S. it is easier for me to move to the U.K. and eventually we will be able to move back to america. wherever we are or wherever i have to move, i really don't care. i'll go wherever chris is. i think i'm a little in love with the guy. and to think, we met here on this board!!

sarah

Hahaha, Gilbert, we aren?t gays. But I agree, gays are very hard working. I?m a member on a gay ex JW?s (that is also inclusive of transsexuals, transgendered and intersexed, the number of gay JW?s who have suicided is horrendous) and most of those gals and guys work like crazy. And most transsexuals I know of work very hard. I know I do and Vivienne does when she can get employment.

Unfortunately Vivienne is from a poor Chinese family. And even if she weren?t, she, like most transsexuals, has been pretty much rejected by her parents and family and they wouldn?t be interested in helping her. Vivienne has not had her operations yet due to being so poor. Unfortunately being transsexual in Malaysia is a dangerous situation no matter what your faith. Sure, her situation is not as precarious as if she were a Muslim but society in general hate transsexuals. Many of us are murdered, raped or beaten up in that country each year. More so than in a lot of other countries. If you are transsexual in Malaysia faith or ethnic origin is irrelevant. It is so dangerous for her that she can not risk taking public transport but has to have her own car in order to get around and that takes a lot of her money, but it is a safety issue no a convenience issue. She has had people following her home occasionally just from where she parks her car!!

I was informed by the immigration organization for gays here in Australia that Vivienne would be prohibited by Malaysian laws from working. If she is caught she would face very heavy penalties once she returned to her country. It doesn?t matter what we think of there is always red tape or a lot of money involved.

Like with gender on her birth certificate. She has a M marker. This will never be changed because she was born in Malaysia and thus under Malaysian law, regardless of her eventually having the entire gender reassignment process. Even if she were to become an Australian citizen she will not be allowed to change her birth certificate.

Surgery is expensive. I am paying for it. This is the first time in my life I am in dept and starting from next week I will be working from sun set till sunset. But Vivienne will never be in a position to save for such surgery. Prostitution is the main avenue for transsexuals to save for surgeries and even then it takes some of them years as this is not good money nor is it a safe option and morally repugnant to many who would prefer to die. Unfortunately, when we planned the surgery we were not aware of the no work policy. But despite Vivienne then saying she would not burden me with such a dept I insisted. She and I can not be together until she is complete, nor can her sanity remain stable while she has a body that is still a prison for her. She will be having surgery in June and three months after will start work in Malaysia if her ex boss is still prepared to employ her. So I may not see her for 18 months but we hope to scrounge enough cash together for her to visit me for a week.

Her picture can be found at http://www.transsexua... and http://www.transsexua...

Love and peace,

Sam